Salam All. I pray that you are all in the best of health. I would like to thank all those who emailed me with the meaning of ‘Kal Ho Naa Ho’ which means ‘Tomorrow may never come’ Some of you may be wondering why i asked such a question and all shall be revealed in this article. Two or three of you also emailed me with a response to another one of my questions which was ‘Can you fall for someone you don’t know’ and i received mixed answers. Some of you misunderstood the question and some of your opinions shocked me but all the same, i thank you.
Now, moving on to today’s article. All of us at some point in our lives feel the need to escape reality and just ‘live’ what i like to call ‘Another Life’ where we create the beginning, middle and end as well as the little bits in between and where we decide upon the outcomes of our actions. I am describing what is known as ‘a fairy tale’
Have you ever day dreamed about something for so long that when you ‘click’ back into reality, you actually for a moment feel as if your ‘day dream’ has come true but then as minutes pass, you soon realise that your life is exactly the same as it was not so long ago.
When this happens, can you not help but feel disheartened and almost disappointed? I know that everything happens for a reason but at times, i would do almost anything to switch reality for fantasy. I suppose this is because with fantasy, you know what to expect – There are no surprises and you are more or less at ease with life. However you never know what to expect with reality and you are constantly faced with a number of challenges which i suppose increase your capability and thus, make you a better person which is what we should all strive towards. But i suppose we all need a break from time to time – Some more than others and that is ok!
The funny thing is that many of us don’t even realise when we have ‘drifted’ off to what most is commonly known as ‘cloud 9’ and surprisingly enough, it usually happens to us during a long and ‘boring’ lesson. Losing concentration for that period of time allows us to experience anything but reality and i don’t know about you, but for me that is so.. Exhilarating and relaxing.
I would like to share a thought will you all. I had half a day at sixth form today as i had a free in the afternoon and Alhumdilillah, since my sixth form is quite close to where i live, i was able to be picked up by my mum which is quite the opposite to how things used to be for me when i was at Al-Furqan but that is a whole different story. Anywho, i saw this bunch of girls – There were quite a few of them and Mashallah they looked stunning there is no denying it and they were clearing receiving quite a bit of attention.
Now for those who don’t know this, i don’t really make a big effort when i go to sixth form. I know that its summer and everything but the weather is so unpredictable so i just usually stick with a pair of jeans and a long top and sometimes a jumper and usually some converse pumps but obviously with the sunshine, i make do with flats. Woah! I really do go off a tangent.
So you can imagine how intimidated i felt by these girls which is quite surprising for me as that is not me – I hardly ever feel intimidated by others and i actually shocked myself. A group of guys were walking pass and i couldn’t help but notice them slow down as they had a good look and basically ‘oogled’ at the girls and before i knew it, out popped the lipgloss and the small compact mirrors.
Now, what really shocked me (even though it shouldn’t have because unfortunately society has turned even those who call themselves ‘Muslim’ towards haram) was that all of the girls was Asian, but one of them was wearing a headscarf and oh my days it was so obvious that she was flirting – She was even doing that fluttering of the eyelashes thing and i was sure that i saw a pout.
Anywho, i realised that i had just wasted at least 2 minutes of life watching something that had absolutely nothing to do with me but it got me wondering. I’m warning you in advance – I am going to go off on a complete tangent (like i always do) and i do apologize and i just pray that you find at least some parts of what i have got to say interesting. If you’re a person who gets bored very easily, then i suggest that you stop here. If not, you may continue.
Right. That ‘little episode’ that i had just witnessed got me thinking. What many of us fail to remember is that we can be one of the prettiest girls in the world and have such an amazing hourglass figure, but do we ever stop to thank our creator for giving us such beauty in the first place?
Speaking as a Muslimah who attends a sixth form that is partially mixed, seeing Muslim girls associating themselves with the opposite gender through the use of i.e. hugs was quite a shock to me. I suppose that the main reason behind this was that after attending an all girls school for five years, i had been ‘shunned’ away for my own benefit from such haram and so after having to witness it so openly, i didn’t to be honest with you realise how religion has lost its identity.
We don’t fear God anymore and most of the time, we pray the five daily prayers for show or when we are told to and even then, we are muttering rude comments under our breath. I mean, what a way to present yourself in front of your creator. Personally, i believe that we have become spoilt. Due to the increase in technology, we are constantly surrounded by a variety of gadgets and have become so caught up in the world of ‘techno’ that we fail to remember even the basics of our religion. And hey, I’m not perfect and I’m illustrating myself first before anyone else and i can honestly tell you, I have just as many faults with my character but that’s the thing. What am i going to do about it? What are we going to do about it?
This leads me onto sharing with you why i asked for the meaning of Kal Ho Naa Ho. Believe it or not i actually sat down and watched it (with subtitles of course) and many of you are aware of the fact that i can’t stand Asian films. Nevertheless, i cannot deny that this particular film brought tears to my eyes and i remember someone telling me the meaning of ‘Kal Ho Naa Ho’ but all i could remember that it had such a touching meaning.
None of us know what our future holds for us and Allah Hu Alim, we could die in the next hour (God Forbid) That is why i am trying to say that life is too short to say ‘Oh I’ll do that tomorrow’ and i of all people know how easy it is to forget about the possibility that tomorrow may never come. That is why we should live every day as it were our last.
I would like to share with you one of my favourite quotations. ‘Life without Love is like a year without summer’ Beautiful. So touching and just so true. Well in my opinion that is. That reminded me of a comment that one of my close friends which was ‘I don’t believe in love marriages’ To be honest with you, that was quite a blow and i was taken back but nevertheless, i see where she is coming from and i shall be inshallah writing a future article (in depth) about love marriages.
A good friend of mine gave me a present sometime last year and i can honestly say hand on heart that it is probably the best present i have ever received. The present was a book called ‘Don’t be Sad’ and the book is exactly about that.
I would like to leave you with a quote from the book and until next time stay safe, remember me in your duas and may Allah swt give us what is best for us and keep away what is bad for us. Ameen.
P.S – Keep on smiling! Its charity!
Asalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu.
“Don’t be sad, because the one who is sad is like a person who pours water into a bucket that has a hole in it. He is like a writer who uses his finger to write on water. Do not be sad, because the true span of life is measured by the number of days in which you are content. Do not then spend your days in grief, do not waste your nights in sorrow, and do not be extravagant in aquandering your time, for truly, Allah loves not those who are extravagant and wasteful. Do not be sad, for in truth, your Lord forgives sins and accepts repentance”
(Don’t be sad – P.98)
P.P.S - Hadikah, the lollipops were yum!
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