‘You just need to grow up!’ Don’t you just hate it when you are asked to grow up? I for one do! In less than a year, I’m going to be facing the daunting aspect of changing from a teenager to an adult. But not everyone is as worried as I am. They say that your teenage years are probably the best years of your life but answer this, would you label a thirteen year old as being a teenager? No, I didn’t think so but, what would you say if I said to you that this ‘innocent’ thirteen year old has been clubbing since the age of ten, wears clothes that can only be described as being ‘skimpy’ and has been dating guys that are¬ 8 or 9 years older than her. This isn’t a fantasy, this is reality. This isn’t the girl that lives down the road, this is your daughter. It’s so easy to point fingers at other people and gossip about their children’s poor upbringing but why don’t we look closer to home. It’s happening right beneath our noses but we don’t even know it. So, where are we going wrong?
Living in a Western society can at times be difficult to put up with. We are constantly being pressurised into looking, acting and even talking in a certain way. We end up losing our individuality and instead, strive to be like the fake celebrities that we see plastered on our magazine covers and bill boards. I hate to say it, but I have slowly noticed a similar trend in the Muslim community. Muslim girls dress to impress and only fear God when they feel the need to. The amount of freedom that girls are given is just ridiculous and as parents, do you ever question your daughter as to where she is going or who she is constantly texting day and night? Not all girls are attention seekers but unfortunately it is the majority and not the minority.
I am in no position to judge and I am certainly in no position to criticize. I am merely pointing out the obvious points that we so easily sweep under the rug in hope that it won’t be discovered. I am far from perfect and if anything, I strive to find faults in my own character rather than looking down upon others.
Living in a Western society can at times be difficult to put up with. We are constantly being pressurised into looking, acting and even talking in a certain way. We end up losing our individuality and instead, strive to be like the fake celebrities that we see plastered on our magazine covers and bill boards. I hate to say it, but I have slowly noticed a similar trend in the Muslim community. Muslim girls dress to impress and only fear God when they feel the need to. The amount of freedom that girls are given is just ridiculous and as parents, do you ever question your daughter as to where she is going or who she is constantly texting day and night? Not all girls are attention seekers but unfortunately it is the majority and not the minority.
I am in no position to judge and I am certainly in no position to criticize. I am merely pointing out the obvious points that we so easily sweep under the rug in hope that it won’t be discovered. I am far from perfect and if anything, I strive to find faults in my own character rather than looking down upon others.
Peer Pressure. It’s like an addictive drug that once attached to an individual, is difficult to get rid of. It’s like a disease that can easily spread. Before you know it, you have been diagnosed with Peer Pressuritus and the sad thing is, there is no cure.
There are times when I feel sorry for certain people. Alhumdilillah, I was brought up with a religious background where the word of God was constantly and still till this very day been mentioned within the house hold. However, there are some individuals who unfortunately weren’t blessed with this and so, their knowledge of Islam had to a certain extent been restricted. Instead, they were negatively influenced by the media and strived to be like the fake models that they saw on their television screens.
Haram is everywhere – That can’t be helped. We can’t control out emotions but we can control our actions. We are constantly being manipulated not only by magazines or ‘so called role models’, but also by someone who I like to call ‘The evil of all evil’ also known as Satan. No matter where we hide, he’ll always find us and he’ll always be doing what he does best – Spreading evil. He’ll be whispering into our ears, into our minds and convincing us that what is haram/wrong is in actual fact halal/right.
Love. If I were to ask you to define love, what would you say? That it is a powerful emotion that makes up a relationship? Or maybe that it is a four letter word that brings a smile to a girls face? The word ‘Love’ has lost its true meaning and it’s all down to us youngsters – with the help of Satan of course. We commit haram, instantly believe that ‘he is the one’, date the person for a few months and feel that he is ‘part of your world’. Before you know it, you hear the devastating words ‘It’s over’ and let me guess, it feels as if ‘your whole world has crashed right before your eyes?’ Yup, thought so. It’s all so predictable.
I know that I sort of went on a tangent but the point that I’m trying to make is that enjoy your teenage years because this stage of your life only comes once and you don’t want to waste it. Instead, live it to the full and when I mean live it to the full, I mean the halal way. Trust me, there are plenty of ways of having fun whilst following a certain set of rules. Stick a smile on your face and say Alhumdilillah. Until next time, Asalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah hi wa barakathu.
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