Salam all. I pray that you are in the best of health. Usually before i write an article, i have a clear image inside my head as to the ‘theme’ of the article but i with this one i just allowed my fingers to do the typing. I’m using past tense as i have already written half of this article so Marya, you don’t need to jump down my neck about using different tenses – hehe.
Before i allow you to go ahead and read this article, I’d first like to make a few points as well as share some news with you all. First of all some brief news regarding my book ‘It’s just a Fairy Tale’. Well at the moment it is on hold and that is because i am getting a very close friend of mine to proof read what i have written and I’m hopefully planning on using her feedback to improve on the chapters that i have already written. I am also suffering from what can only be described as being a writer’s worse nightmare – A writer’s block. I’m trying to figure out as to where i want to go next and the most frustrating thing is that i have got the ending all planned out as well as part of the beginning but i haven’t quite pieced together the middle. Nevertheless, i am working on it and just pray that Allah swt provides me inspiration. As well as this, i have also been looking into publishers and have contacted one or two publishing companies. I have also been looking into literacy agents and doing some research.
Now, onto my second point. One of my readers commented on the overall concept of my articles and described me as ‘wasting my time by talking about love and politics’ which is why i would like to take the opportunity of bluntly saying that if you have a problem with me talking about i quote ‘love and politics’ then don’t bother reading my articles. My articles are mainly aimed at the female gender and i usually write and discuss topics that the female population are able to relate to. Only recently have a few guys begun to read my articles and hey, that’s ok – I have no problem with that.
If you don’t like to read what i write about then you can easily suggest a topic/issue and I’ll try my best to write an article based upon what you have suggested but please don’t turn around and be downright rude.
Amongst all this, i have come up with an idea. I know your probably thinking ‘Oh no, what is she up to now?’ but i actually got the idea from a Charmed episode. Before i go ahead and tell you what the idea is, i would firstly like to say that i am 100% serious and committed and whether it will work Allahu Alim but i won’t know unless i give it a go. Ok. Brace yourself people. I am thinking of doing something called ‘Ask Alima’ – See it as being a sort of agony aunt service. This will give you the opportunity to email me with any problems that you may have or any questions that you would like answers to but are too embarrassed to ask. It would be 100% confidential and no one – I repeat no-one would know of your question/problem(s). You may just want someone to talk to or a shoulder to lean on but either way, i would only be an email away. Like they say ‘A problem shared is a problem halved’ and if you can help someone, they hey, why not. So erm what do you think? Like i said, I’m just an email away: alima-15@hotmail.co.uk I’ve got nothing to lose but you may have a lot to gain.
Phew! Now that i have gotten that out of the way, i can finally introduce my article. I hope that you enjoy reading it and i can almost guarantee that you will find yourself cringing at certain ‘cheesy parts’ and i apologize. I have just finished reading an Act from Romeo and Juliet and so I’m still in a ‘dazed’ mood. I just want to add in a quick thank you to Ayesha Bashir who kindly pointed out a common spelling mistake of mine. All i can say is that you cannot always rely on Microsoft Word Spell Check.
Here is my article: ‘The Concept of Love’ Enjoy!
Love is an expression of what one feels for another being. It is a four letter word that is overly used and the meaning that it holds is quite overwhelming. Every girl dreams of it – Whether the opposite gender shares the same ‘dream’ is a question that is yet to be answered. The whole concept of love shouldn’t be shared but rather be kept between two lovers.
For those people who deny the existence of love, please answer this: You use the word ‘love’ in your everyday language. You say that you love chocolate, that you love playing sports and maybe even shopping but then why don’t you believe in being able to love a physical being?
Some people make the common mistake of mistaking lust for love but despite their similarity, they are two different things. Lust comes from Shaytan and is merely a temptation to commit wrong whereas Love comes from Allah swt and is a great blessing.
There is a reason as to why they say love ‘love grows within a marriage’ and there is also a reason as to why sexual contact with the opposite gender is forbidden outside marriage. However, why do many of insist on believing that the whole ‘boyfriend/girlfriend’ issue is tolerated in Islam?
Tell me; what is more important to you – Your religion or your boyfriend. Wherever you go, your deen will go with you but can the same be said for your boyfriend who is supposedly meant to be your ‘soul mate’? And how can he be your ‘soul mate’ if you have committed haram to be with him? I am in no way targeting a specific individual or specific group of people so i do apologize i f i end up offending anyone – That is not my intention.
A few days ago someone asked me whether i am in love and to be honest with you, i didn’t know whether to burst out laughing or whether to say ‘Say what?!’ Apparently this person asked me this question because i frequently, within my articles, talk about romance and marriage. The reason why i so frequently talk about such issues is because speaking as an Asian, i believe that such topics have in a way been ‘shunned’ away and so if you were for example to talk about romance within a marriage, you will suddenly find the people around you muttering stuff like ‘Besharam’ because from a cultural point of view, discussing such a topic is seen as being an embarrassment.
In the end, you’re left with a typical boxing arena scene. Ahem. *loud bulky voice* ‘In the Red corner we have the Besharam crew and in the Blue corner we have the Muslim ladies – Round1, Ding Ding!’ The Outcome? A bunch of typical Asians who have still yet to get over the traumatic experience of being asked to discuss the concept of love and a bunch of confused.com Muslim ladies who still have a bunch of unanswered questions and still no-one to turn to.
I think that what many of us fail to remember is that you can have the almost perfect husband (or wife) but if the love and the passion ain’t there, then what’s the point? There are many different aspects to a marriage and one of them includes love. You see, a marriage is a bit like a jigsaw puzzle. You need to have all the pieces in the correct place in order to see the full picture but if one piece is missing, then the jigsaw i.e. marriage ain’t complete. Don’t even ask me how i come up with these analogies.
Believe it or not, i never used to believe in the whole love ‘thing’ and i used to be a major prude in secondary. Nevertheless, i have grown to believe that love does exist and that it ain’t just some fantasy that you read about in a fairytale – It is in actual fact real.
I don’t know about you, but i find it so much easier to be able to ‘express’ myself in writing rather than verbally which is why when it comes to discussing such issues, i feel that i can openly express my opinions in an article but if i were to discuss it with someone verbally, my face would be turning red, yellow, pink, green, orange and then eventually back to red.
I think that it is about time for me to wrap up this article so i wish you all the best. Stay safe, remember me in your duas and please, for the sake of the Ummah keep smiling. And also, please remember your brothers and sisters who are suffering from the floods in Pakistan in your duas. May Allah swt make things easy for them and provide them with strength and courage.
Until next time, Asalamualikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu
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