Salam. I pray that you are all in the best of health. Before i go ahead and explain the title of this article, I’d first like to talk a little bit about my previous article which was ‘Muslim girls are the worst’. Now, i had this conversation with a few family members, some of which who wear the headscarf and some of which who don’t. Anywho, it was something that my mother said that made me think. She goes ‘At the end of the day, we don’t wear the headscarf for anyone - We wear it for our creator so the opinions of others should not affect us as we are who we are. As with everything, you will always have a small group of people that will negatively represent others. All we can do is pray that Allah swt guides the wrong does onto the right path. Ameen’ – And i second that. Unfortunately, we live in a society where we are judged by our appearance and our actions and when the two are combined, the end result is usually equals a negative view of Muslims. You would think that what with everything that has happened with the 9/11 and the London Underground bombings, as Muslims, we would be wanting be to prove the Non-Muslims and the media wrong because at the moment, they see us as being violent and aggressive individuals. But what do we go and do? We go and burn the Pakistani flag. What good does that do? And as for respecting our religion, what do we go and do? We go and falsely wear the headscarf and then tell a pack of lies before going out and meeting someone in the park. I do apologize for using the term ‘we’ as like i have already said, it is a majority of Muslims who end up falsely representing others.
Earlier on today i was going through my previous articles and realised that this is my twentieth article. *shocked face* I celebrated with a slice of chocolate cake and an iced glad of Pepsi. I would like to thank every single person who has read one or several of my articles. And of course, a whole load of thanks goes to Allah swt as none of this would have been possible without him. Subhanallah!
I had a fair idea as to what i wanted to base this article on, so i hopped onto Google and conducted a bit of research, Much to my surprise, i came across an organisation called ‘Muslim Youth’ which is basically an Islamic version of Childline that is directly aimed at Muslim teenagers. I browsed their website and i came across a video called ‘Rami & Jamilah – The Muslim Romeo and Juliet’ (Yes i stole the title of the video for my article) The title of the video says it all. The video was made by students and i defiantly suggest that you stop reading this article and instead first watch the video. This is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LsOZSwNF2vA&playnext_from=TL&videos=qSu9g0H_v2g
I don’t know about you but the video really affected me (in a positive way) and i don’t know why which is why i have decided to write an article about it. I have just recently finished reading the play Romeo and Juliet for the second time and credit has to be given to William Shakespeare for writing such a heartbreaking but yet captivating love ‘story’
I have always hated Asian films. The outburst of songs every five seconds usually gave me a headache and the story lines are all so similar but after watching ‘Kal Ho Naa Ho’ and reading a romantic book based on a Muslim couple (the book is called Hijaab Waali ) my view changed and ever since, i have become hooked on the whole ‘Muslim Love Story’ theme. I haven’t gone as far as believing that one day i shall meet a beast who is secretly a Prince or a frog who when kissed, will magically transform into a price but i do believe in ‘Happy Ever After’ and i don’t see no reason as to why every girl shouldn’t have her happy ending – Her Islamic Happy Ever After.
However, many people get confused between lust and love and it is because of this confusion that you hear girls of 12, 13 or even 14 years of age saying ‘But I love him’ where ‘him’ happens to be some stranger who they have only known for a few days.
Do you believe in love at first sight? I asked this question to a friend of mine and this was her response:
“I think getting to know the person makes a big difference. They may look good, but, how do you know if they even speak English? They may have bad hobbits that you can’t stand?’
And i do to a certain extent agree which is kind of confusing because i believe that Romeo and Juliet is such a romantic play in many different ways, but they end up getting married within days of meeting. They married without their families knowing (which is part of the plot) So if that is the case, did Shakespeare believe in love at first sight?
I find it quite amusing how the older Asian generation don’t believe in ‘Love marriages’ and believe in the one principle – That ‘Love grows within the marriage’ which is 100% true but i think that they don’t believe in love marriages because back in ‘their day’ they weren’t even given the opportunity of finding their own possible spouse. Muslim dating sites didn’t even exist and even Shaadi.com was non-existent. As for Muslim Speed Dating, well let’s just say no comment. Their main option was marrying within the family i.e. their cousins who weren’t exactly their ideal marriage partner but what could they do? Which is why many Asians (mainly the older generation) don’t believe in love marriages and have their doubt which is understandable. Well that it my theory!
I’m going to wrap up this article but before i do, I’d like to say one last thing. Only Allah swt knows who is compatible for who and with his and your family’s blessing will a marriage Inshallah be successful. I am currently looking for guest writers so if you are interested, then drop me an email. You can write about almost anything and everything – Let your imagination run wild. Until next time, stay safe, remember me in your duas and... Keep smiling!
Asalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu.
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